LOOKING FOR A MIRACLE? (Fears)
LOOKING FOR A MIRACLE?
EXPLORE YOUR FEARS
While we may not call it a miracle, many of us are looking for major changes in our lives; looking for good things to happen.
To me, the text book simple person’s definition of insanity is to repeat behaviour and expect different results. Funny, this seldom happens.
One of the major road blocks to change is fear. Many of us live in fear, consciously or unconsciously, on an ongoing basis.
Want the miracle to happen? My coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his idea Engineer, suggests you “Explore Your Fears”. Want to explore, get in touch with me. I can lead you to discovery.
Explore your fears
"Fear is a question: What are you afraid of, and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, our fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if we explore them." -- Marilyn Ferguson
In our world of duality, fear and love sit at opposite ends of the continuum. Fear belongs only to the personality because it believes in separation and impermanence. The soul never knows fear because it understands the unity of all.
When fear arises, we can invite our soul to sit with our frightened personality. What soul energies are waiting to be acknowledged? When we bring higher energies into the presence of lower energies, the lower energies are transformed.
"What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it." -- Jiddu Krishnamurti
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Listening To Your Body ~ Addiction Help
Listening To Your Body ~ Addiction Help
Listening To Your Body
This weeks Idea Engineer from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons served as a good reminder.
One of the things that have dramatically improved in my life through the process of life recovery is listening skills. Yes, I listen to others better with my ears, but every bit as importantly, I listen to me, including my body, far better and this is a key to keeping life in balance. Randin’s Idea Engineer:What is your body saying?"Many people treat their bodies as if they were rented from Hertz -- something they are using to get around in but nothing they genuinely care about understanding." -- Chungliang Al Huang
"As we explore the extraordinary interplay of energies between the many aspects of our personality -- our needs, unconscious reactions, repressed emotions, aspirations and fears -- with the functioning of our physical system and its capacity to maintain itself, we soon realize how very wise the body is. With its intricately detailed systems and operations it portrays infinite intelligence and compassion, constantly giving us the means to understand ourselves further, to confront issues we are not looking at, and to go beyond that which is holding us back." -- Deb Shapiro, Your Body Speaks Your Mind
Please leave your thoughts on this here or at www.hopeserenity.ca. I will answer any questions.
Scan your body with your awareness. Are you experiencing any aches and pains? Any stiffness?
What might your body be trying to tell you about how you are living your life?
"Your body is the ground and metaphor of your life, the expression of your existence. It is your Bible, your encyclopedia, your life story. Everything that happens to you is stored and reflected in your body. In the marriage of flesh and spirit divorce is impossible." -- Gabrielle Roth
"What is always speaking silently is the body." -- Norman Brown
Interesting way to look at things, and how very true. There was a time I treated my body as something rented from Hertz, and failed to hear the messages that were there. I paid a price and in some ways, still am. Today I try to treat flesh and spirit as one. I have only one body and in it is stored my history, and if I look in the right places, the keys to the life I want. The body speaks silently (as does that voice inside), it is my job to listen quietly to the message and act appropriately.Most of us are trying to recover a better way of living. Listening to your body is a learned skill. Are you paying attention?Keith Bray BA,CALC
Listening To Your Body
This weeks Idea Engineer from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons served as a good reminder.
One of the things that have dramatically improved in my life through the process of life recovery is listening skills. Yes, I listen to others better with my ears, but every bit as importantly, I listen to me, including my body, far better and this is a key to keeping life in balance. Randin’s Idea Engineer:What is your body saying?"Many people treat their bodies as if they were rented from Hertz -- something they are using to get around in but nothing they genuinely care about understanding." -- Chungliang Al Huang
"As we explore the extraordinary interplay of energies between the many aspects of our personality -- our needs, unconscious reactions, repressed emotions, aspirations and fears -- with the functioning of our physical system and its capacity to maintain itself, we soon realize how very wise the body is. With its intricately detailed systems and operations it portrays infinite intelligence and compassion, constantly giving us the means to understand ourselves further, to confront issues we are not looking at, and to go beyond that which is holding us back." -- Deb Shapiro, Your Body Speaks Your Mind
Please leave your thoughts on this here or at www.hopeserenity.ca. I will answer any questions.
Scan your body with your awareness. Are you experiencing any aches and pains? Any stiffness?
What might your body be trying to tell you about how you are living your life?
"Your body is the ground and metaphor of your life, the expression of your existence. It is your Bible, your encyclopedia, your life story. Everything that happens to you is stored and reflected in your body. In the marriage of flesh and spirit divorce is impossible." -- Gabrielle Roth
"What is always speaking silently is the body." -- Norman Brown
Interesting way to look at things, and how very true. There was a time I treated my body as something rented from Hertz, and failed to hear the messages that were there. I paid a price and in some ways, still am. Today I try to treat flesh and spirit as one. I have only one body and in it is stored my history, and if I look in the right places, the keys to the life I want. The body speaks silently (as does that voice inside), it is my job to listen quietly to the message and act appropriately.Most of us are trying to recover a better way of living. Listening to your body is a learned skill. Are you paying attention?Keith Bray BA,CALC
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Give YOURSELF A Treat?
Give YOURSELF A Treat?
Give YOURSELF A Treat?
Man, how often do you beat yourself up? If you’re like many, in one way, shape or form, many people do this quite often.
How often do you give that person you should love the most a little gift or treat? Not for any reason but just because you love them.
''One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats.”— Iris Murdoch
I was taught long ago that to live a happy and balanced life, I should give myself a healthy reward on just about a daily basis and I try to do this. Whether it is just some quiet time, a "munchies" treat, an extra 5 minutes sleep, a few extra moments in the tub or a tangible gift, I try to reward myself for the progress I'm making. In working with others, I encourage them, as part of recovering the life they want, to do the same thing. It is part of the daily balance check list I use with clients, and this is a free download at www.hopeserenity.ca.
It's easier to remember to give those you care about a treat or gift now and again. What stops you from doing the same for yourself?
A simple thought (and I hope it jumps out the next time you are negative to you); give the negative up and add happiness to your life by giving yourself a small treat; a simple pleasure. Do it routinely and your happiness quotient will increase! I guarantee it.
Give YOURSELF A Treat?
Man, how often do you beat yourself up? If you’re like many, in one way, shape or form, many people do this quite often.
How often do you give that person you should love the most a little gift or treat? Not for any reason but just because you love them.
''One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats.”— Iris Murdoch
I was taught long ago that to live a happy and balanced life, I should give myself a healthy reward on just about a daily basis and I try to do this. Whether it is just some quiet time, a "munchies" treat, an extra 5 minutes sleep, a few extra moments in the tub or a tangible gift, I try to reward myself for the progress I'm making. In working with others, I encourage them, as part of recovering the life they want, to do the same thing. It is part of the daily balance check list I use with clients, and this is a free download at www.hopeserenity.ca.
It's easier to remember to give those you care about a treat or gift now and again. What stops you from doing the same for yourself?
A simple thought (and I hope it jumps out the next time you are negative to you); give the negative up and add happiness to your life by giving yourself a small treat; a simple pleasure. Do it routinely and your happiness quotient will increase! I guarantee it.
Friday, May 7, 2010
DO YOU LIMIT YOU?
DO YOU LIMIT YOU?
DO YOU LIMIT YOU?
For many years, I know now, in my case the simple answer to the above question was yes.
In a more detailed thought process tells me that there were areas and occasions where I didn’t limit my own progress, but these were a minority. And when it came to limitations caused by a lack of self-esteem and self-love, but the time I was in my thirties, I placed huge limitations on my self.
Quite straight forward, you can’t give freely to others what you haven’t got for yourself, and I am shocked at how my lack of self-esteem and self-love negatively impacted my joy of life and cheated me out of relationships that could have been much richer and meaningful. Are you cheating yourself?
To a large extent, the way we think determines who we are and what happens to us.
We cannot harbour poisonous thoughts without their effects visibly showing in our lives. If we dwell on our inadequacy and ineffectiveness, for example, circumstances will prove us correct because we will invite self-defeating events to us.
On the other hand, replacing destructive thoughts with hope-filled, optimistic ones brings peaceful and confidence-producing circumstances to us. We will radiate competence and joy.
Over the past 16 years I have been on a journey to appreciate myself and be a positive influence to those I touch. I restate this is a journey and has no destination; it is a process of life recovery co-created by a power greater than myself and with the human help of many. It is a journey that has led to my not being my greatest limiting factor, but becoming a person who sees the possibilities. It is a spiritual wakening; a radical change in my attitude and for that I am grateful.
If you can relate to where I was and want to take the journey, please feel free to contact me through this posting or at www.hopeserenity.ca.
DO YOU LIMIT YOU?
For many years, I know now, in my case the simple answer to the above question was yes.
In a more detailed thought process tells me that there were areas and occasions where I didn’t limit my own progress, but these were a minority. And when it came to limitations caused by a lack of self-esteem and self-love, but the time I was in my thirties, I placed huge limitations on my self.
Quite straight forward, you can’t give freely to others what you haven’t got for yourself, and I am shocked at how my lack of self-esteem and self-love negatively impacted my joy of life and cheated me out of relationships that could have been much richer and meaningful. Are you cheating yourself?
To a large extent, the way we think determines who we are and what happens to us.
We cannot harbour poisonous thoughts without their effects visibly showing in our lives. If we dwell on our inadequacy and ineffectiveness, for example, circumstances will prove us correct because we will invite self-defeating events to us.
On the other hand, replacing destructive thoughts with hope-filled, optimistic ones brings peaceful and confidence-producing circumstances to us. We will radiate competence and joy.
Over the past 16 years I have been on a journey to appreciate myself and be a positive influence to those I touch. I restate this is a journey and has no destination; it is a process of life recovery co-created by a power greater than myself and with the human help of many. It is a journey that has led to my not being my greatest limiting factor, but becoming a person who sees the possibilities. It is a spiritual wakening; a radical change in my attitude and for that I am grateful.
If you can relate to where I was and want to take the journey, please feel free to contact me through this posting or at www.hopeserenity.ca.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
SEEKING PEACE WITHIN?
SEEKING PEACE WITHIN?
SEEKING PEACE WITHIN?
For years, the inside of me knew very little peace. I found fleeting moments of serenity when I was in warm sunshine coupled with “greener pastures” or the waves and smell of the ocean. But just fleeting. When I left these places, turmoil resumed and serenity was something I wanted all too much.
I tried to escape the world and unrest through various methods, numbing myself with chemicals or electing, often under the influence, to use other people to give me pleasure and satisfaction. Can you relate?
Unfortunately, when the influence of substance or human incident was over, my inner turmoil was still there. My life did not offer a lot of hope.
Today, I have peace within a vast majority of time. I’m filled with hope each day and thoroughly enjoy serenity. What a magnificent change.
Taking an honest look at ourselves is necessary if we want peace.
Scary stuff, this taking an HONEST look at ourselves.
The process I used, and the process I coach clients through is based on the principles found in the 12 steps. They are a model for good mental hygiene. Personally, I needed help from experts to get me through the process, particularly as it related to taking an honest look at me.
In the 12 steps, Step Four asks us to admit our character defects. That's not an easy assignment. How "defective" could we be? In truth, we do have many assets, and it will help us to admit our defects if we also own our assets.
I am constantly amazed by the great psychological principles the 12 steps embrace. In the life of my past, it was almost an impossible task for me to step outside of myself and take an objective and honest look at myself. Until I did, it was impossible to make the changes I needed to make. My own experience substantiated by working with others, verifies those who do this work thoroughly get a new insight and understanding of who they are, and in doing the work prior to this step coupled with the insight the step provides, gain the courage to make major change in their life.
So back to the original question-are you seeking peace within?
If your answer is yes, and you know that inner peace will allow you to make major positive changes in your life, there is help available based on 12 steps that can make it happen. All you have to do is honestly reach out! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
SEEKING PEACE WITHIN?
For years, the inside of me knew very little peace. I found fleeting moments of serenity when I was in warm sunshine coupled with “greener pastures” or the waves and smell of the ocean. But just fleeting. When I left these places, turmoil resumed and serenity was something I wanted all too much.
I tried to escape the world and unrest through various methods, numbing myself with chemicals or electing, often under the influence, to use other people to give me pleasure and satisfaction. Can you relate?
Unfortunately, when the influence of substance or human incident was over, my inner turmoil was still there. My life did not offer a lot of hope.
Today, I have peace within a vast majority of time. I’m filled with hope each day and thoroughly enjoy serenity. What a magnificent change.
Taking an honest look at ourselves is necessary if we want peace.
Scary stuff, this taking an HONEST look at ourselves.
The process I used, and the process I coach clients through is based on the principles found in the 12 steps. They are a model for good mental hygiene. Personally, I needed help from experts to get me through the process, particularly as it related to taking an honest look at me.
In the 12 steps, Step Four asks us to admit our character defects. That's not an easy assignment. How "defective" could we be? In truth, we do have many assets, and it will help us to admit our defects if we also own our assets.
I am constantly amazed by the great psychological principles the 12 steps embrace. In the life of my past, it was almost an impossible task for me to step outside of myself and take an objective and honest look at myself. Until I did, it was impossible to make the changes I needed to make. My own experience substantiated by working with others, verifies those who do this work thoroughly get a new insight and understanding of who they are, and in doing the work prior to this step coupled with the insight the step provides, gain the courage to make major change in their life.
So back to the original question-are you seeking peace within?
If your answer is yes, and you know that inner peace will allow you to make major positive changes in your life, there is help available based on 12 steps that can make it happen. All you have to do is honestly reach out! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
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